When Expectations Replace Biblical Love

By |2026-09-08T09:46:37-05:00September 8th, 2026|biblical counseling, Christian Living, marriage and family|

When Expectations Replace Biblical Love

David M. Tyler, PhD.

Over the years, I have counseled many husbands and wives who entered marriage with expectations they did not even realize they had. They expected their spouse to understand them. They expected appreciation for what they did. They expected affection to be expressed in a certain way. They expected their spouse to change certain habits, respond differently during disagreements, or recognize their needs without being told. Some expectations may seem perfectly reasonable.

The problem begins when expectations quietly become requirements. A husband may begin thinking, If my wife really loved me, she would treat […]

Why Marriage Problems Begin in the Heart

By |2026-08-31T10:16:32-05:00August 31st, 2026|biblical counseling, Christian Living, Marriage & Family|

Why Marriage Problems Begin in the Heart

David M. Tyler, PhD.

Over the years I have counseled many husbands and wives who came to me convinced they knew what was wrong with their marriage. He does not listen. She is too critical. He is selfish. She does not respect me. We cannot communicate. We argue about money, the children, intimacy, or responsibilities around the home.

Those problems are real. But they are usually not the deepest problem.

One of the most important truths I try to help couples understand is this: marriage problems begin in the heart before […]

The Freedom of Asking Forgiveness

By |2026-08-23T11:26:07-05:00August 23rd, 2026|biblical counseling, Christian Living, Marriage & Family|

The Freedom of Asking Forgiveness

David M. Tyler, PhD. 

One of the most difficult sentences for many people to say is also one of the simplest: “I was wrong. Will you forgive me?”

Over nearly three decades of pastoral ministry and many years of biblical counseling, I have watched husbands and wives struggle to say those words. I have seen parents recognize that they sinned against their children but hesitate to admit it. I have counseled believers who knew they were wrong, yet continued defending themselves rather than humbling themselves.

Why is asking forgiveness so difficult?

Often, the problem is not […]

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Why Repentance Brings Hope to Marriage

By |2026-08-16T18:16:35-05:00August 16th, 2026|biblical counseling, Christian Living, Marriage & Family|

Why Repentance Brings Hope to Marriage

David M. Tyler, PhD.

Over nearly three decades of pastoral ministry and many years of biblical counseling, I have seen husbands and wives reach a troubling place in their marriage. Both can explain, sometimes in considerable detail, what is wrong with the other person.

He knows what she needs to change. She knows what he needs to change. Both may have legitimate concerns. Yet they remain stuck because each is looking across the room rather than into his or her own heart. Jesus spoke directly to this tendency:

“Why do you look at the speck […]

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Biblical Discernment and the Truth About Transgenderism

By |2025-11-18T14:37:18-06:00October 14th, 2025|biblical counseling, biblical discernment, biblical discernment, Blog Primary, Christian Living, fallen world, gender dysphoria, transformation in Christ, transgenderism|

Many people today struggle with gender dysphoria and confusion about identity. Biblical discernment begins with God—not feelings—and offers truth and hope for those living in a fallen world. This article explains how Scripture addresses gender confusion, the renewed mind, and transformation in Christ.

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PODCAST Who Are You When No one is Watching?

By |2025-10-29T12:12:17-05:00October 4th, 2025|Biblical, Christian Living, Family & Parenting, Podcast Primary|

Who Are You When No one is Watching? “It’s easy to look spiritual in public, but who are you at home? This podcast calls men to authenticity, humility, and Christlike leadership where it matters most.”

 

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PODCAST A Counseling Ministry at Your Church; Why?

By |2025-10-29T12:13:00-05:00October 4th, 2025|biblical counseling, Christian Living, Church & Ministry, Podcast Primary|

A Counseling Ministry at Your Church; Why?  Counseling is a targeted part of discipleship that addresses the personal struggles keeping someone from growing spiritually. It involves coming alongside them, applying Scripture to their situation, and helping them understand how to change. It’s a more concentrated and temporary form of discipleship with the goal of restoring spiritual momentum and guiding them back to steady, ongoing growth in Christ.

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PODCAST Why I Hated Counseling

By |2025-10-29T12:14:08-05:00October 4th, 2025|biblical counseling, Christian Living, Church & Ministry, Podcast Primary|

Why I Hated Counseling I served as a pastor for 27 years—and I loved it. I loved studying God’s Word and preaching it each week. But one thing I dreaded was counseling. When someone came to me with years of depression, anxiety, or anger, I didn’t know how to help. I could pray with them, listen, maybe share a verse… but deep down, I felt unprepared. What could I offer that would truly change things?”

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PODCAST Love Languages is Not Your Problem 

By |2026-02-26T15:30:37-06:00October 4th, 2025|biblical counseling, Christian Living, Family & Parenting, Marriage & Family, Podcast Primary|

Love Languages is Not Your Problem   The Five Love languages by Gary Chapman. I do think he gives some constructive advice. For example, everybody has their preferences as to the way they like their spouse to show love. On the other hand, I don’t agree with his main premise. Chapman’s premise is built upon the fact that all people have a natural focus and bias toward self. Self, not God or neighbor is the focus of the book.

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PODCAST It’s Okay to Be Angry But …

By |2026-02-26T15:05:36-06:00October 4th, 2025|Anger & Conflict, Christian Living, Family & Parenting, Podcast Primary, truth and feelings|

It’s Okay to Be Angry But …  “Be angry and yet do not sin…” (Ephesians 4:26).The goal is not to eliminate all anger, only sinful anger. Unfortunately, many believers do not know how to distinguish between righteous and sinful anger. They think their sinful anger is righteous anger. The result is they remain un-reconciled with their husband, wife, mother, father, son or daughter. This podcast will help you to know the difference.

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