Why Marriage Problems Begin in the Heart

Why Marriage Problems Begin in the Heart

By David M. Tyler, Ph. D.|2026-08-31T10:16:32-05:00August 31st, 2026|biblical counseling, Christian Living, Marriage & Family|

Why Marriage Problems Begin in the Heart

David M. Tyler, PhD.

Over the years I have counseled many husbands and wives who came to me convinced they knew what was wrong with their marriage. He does not listen. She is too critical. He is selfish. She does not respect me. We cannot communicate. We argue about money, the children, intimacy, or responsibilities around the home.

Those problems are real. But they are usually not the deepest problem.

One of the most important truths I try to help couples understand is this: marriage problems begin in the heart before […]

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The Freedom of Asking Forgiveness

The Freedom of Asking Forgiveness

By David M. Tyler, Ph. D.|2026-08-23T11:26:07-05:00August 23rd, 2026|biblical counseling, Christian Living, Marriage & Family|

The Freedom of Asking Forgiveness

David M. Tyler, PhD.

One of the most difficult sentences for many people to say is also one of the simplest: “I was wrong. Will you forgive me?”

Over nearly three decades of pastoral ministry and many years of biblical counseling, I have watched husbands and wives struggle to say those words. I have seen parents recognize that they sinned against their children but hesitate to admit it. I have counseled believers who knew they were wrong, yet continued defending themselves rather than humbling themselves.

Why is asking forgiveness so difficult?

Often, the problem is not […]

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Why Repentance Brings Hope to Marriage

Why Repentance Brings Hope to Marriage

By David M. Tyler, Ph. D.|2026-08-16T18:16:35-05:00August 16th, 2026|biblical counseling, Christian Living, Marriage & Family|

Why Repentance Brings Hope to Marriage

David M. Tyler, PhD.

Over nearly three decades of pastoral ministry and many years of biblical counseling, I have seen husbands and wives reach a troubling place in their marriage. Both can explain, sometimes in considerable detail, what is wrong with the other person.

He knows what she needs to change. She knows what he needs to change. Both may have legitimate concerns. Yet they remain stuck because each is looking across the room rather than into his or her own heart. Jesus spoke directly to this tendency:

“Why do you look at the speck […]

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Why Spiritual Growth Matters More Than Marriage Techniques

Why Spiritual Growth Matters More Than Marriage Techniques

By David M. Tyler, Ph. D.|2026-08-10T11:31:27-05:00August 10th, 2026|biblical counseling, marriage|

Why Spiritual Growth Matters More Than Marriage Techniques

David M. Tyler, PhD.

Every struggling marriage seems to generate another list of techniques. Better communication. More date nights. Learn your spouse’s love language. Resolve conflict more effectively. While many of these suggestions contain practical value, they often overlook the deeper issue.

As a biblical counselor, I have met many couples who knew what they were supposed to do but still failed to do it consistently. They understood communication principles. They could explain healthy conflict resolution. Yet their marriages continued to deteriorate because the real problem was never a lack of […]

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When Pride Becomes the Greatest Obstacle to Change

When Pride Becomes the Greatest Obstacle to Change

By David M. Tyler, Ph. D.|2026-08-01T20:03:21-05:00August 1st, 2026|biblical counseling, Marriage & Family, spiritual growth|

When Pride Becomes the Greatest Obstacle to Change

David M. Tyler, PhD

Most people genuinely want their lives to improve. They want stronger marriages, healthier families, restored relationships, freedom from sinful habits, or greater peace in life’s trials. Yet after many years as both a pastor and biblical counselor, I have learned that the greatest obstacle to lasting change is often not a lack of knowledge, difficult circumstances, or even the failures of other people. More often than we realize, the greatest obstacle is our own pride.

One of the most common statements I have heard in counseling over […]

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